Frum Idealism

Tuesday, May 30, 2006

Hamotzi Lechem Min Hashamayim

OK, Jeopardy fans, that's the answer, now what was the question? The question was, "What bracha did the Bnei Yisrael make on the mon in the desert?"

I was recently reflecting (with the help of my rav) on a very interesting concept. The mon was probably the greatest daily mitzva ever recorded. Every morning, the Bnei Yisrael woke up and outside their door was this "stuff" that tasted like anything you wanted it to. Think about the following, let's look at someone that was born a week after matan torah, and grew up in the desert. Now it's just before they enter into Eretz Yisrael, he/she is almost forty years old. In that person's mind the mon wasn't a "miracle", it's just the way things have always been. Yet we, who have never had or seen the mon think of it as an incredible miracle.
It makes me stop and think. Thinking about all the things that Hashem has given us on a regular basis and we, or at least I, probably never appreciated so much because it's something that we've always had. The rain, sunlight, my family, our health, our ability to see, hear, speak, smell, etc. etc. etc.
Looking at it now makes me realize just how miraculous all of that actually is. Boruch Hashem ....... asher lo azav chasdo va'amito........

Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Special Moments


OK, I decided to follow up my previous post with this one:

What special things do you try to do with your child(ren) or did your parent(s) do with you?
You know what I mean, the silly little things, that kids will probably remember forever.

For example, somebody once gave me the idea and I buy my kids Dunkin Donuts on Rosh Chodesh. It actually accomplishes more than one purpose. I once missed, and they were very quick to remind me that it was Rosh Chodesh. I didn't know they knew.

I make sure to tuck my daughter into bed almost every night, and say shma, and kiss her eyes. Occasional butterfly kisses are always fun.

One can never have too many ideas. I want to hear yours.

Monday, May 22, 2006

I Miss My Daughter

Just the other day, my daughter was born. ten tiny fingers, ten tiny toes. She was barely even able to look up at me. totally helpless. a tiny bundle in my hands. I miss my daughter.
Yesterday she started to talk. Yesterday, she started to walk. She wasn't as dependant on me, yet she still was. I miss my daughter.

Today, her mother and I are still her world. Nothing is more important in her life.
But I have to work. I am forced to be apart from her. I miss her so much.
I spend a few minutes in the morning with her, and maybe a half hour at night.
When I am with her, I want to spend every moment with her, yet I get distracted.
I hope she remembers the fun times that we did spend together. Time flies by so fast. I miss my daughter.

Tomorrow, she will be that much more independant. Spending more time with her friends and spending less and less time at home. I miss my daughter.
Next week will be her Bat Mitzva and I will watch and wonder how this little child became a young lady. She is BA"H soooo beautiful. I miss my daughter.




Next month she becomes a teenager, so busy with her friends, her school, work, boys, who knows what else. I miss my daughter.
Next year she gets married. Everything changes. In most ways for the better, but then she is no longer even living in my house. Have I mentioned that I miss my daughter?


I can't wait to go home tonight and hold her and squeeze her so tight. I want to make sure that she realizes that at any given second that I am not completely with her, no matter what else is going on in my life, I will ALWAYS love and miss my daughter.

Thursday, May 18, 2006

Nickelback


When I heard my first Nickelback, single, "How You Remind Me", I really enjoyed it and thought to myself, here's a band that I can really get into. Unfortunately, they disappointed me. Although I do still enjoy their music, every song of theirs sounds pretty much the same to me. In fact, I discovered last night that somebody apparently already even blogged about it a few months back.
Yesterday, I discovered their latest video, Savin' Me .
(if you don't have QuickTime or have other issues with viewing this video, let me know, I may have other ways)
What can I say? I loved it. It's so brilliant and original and well thought out. I showed it to a few of my friends and family and felt I had to share it with my "blogfamily" as well.
A friend also directed me to an earlier video of theirs, Someday .
I thought this video was also very good and very well done, but the premise wasn't as original as the Savin' Me video.
It still bothers me that their songs sound the same, and there is one common theme between these two videos (which I won't share with you so as not to give it away), however, I really enjoyed the videos and wanted to share them with you.
I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

Tuesday, May 16, 2006

Gematrias

Many people mock gematrias and I definitely agree that sometimes they get stretched a bit. Once you start adding or removing letters, it definitely loses some of its potency. However, Hebrew is not just another language, it's lashon hakodesh. There is a reason and not only an explanation, but a deeper explanation to most words we come across. Maybe another time I'll get deeper into that. For today, I just wanted to throw out there a few interesting gematrias that pertain to this time period (I hope Reb Shimon Bar Yochai and the Ramah whose yahrtzeits were today will be proud).

We know that sefira is 49 days and is split into the days of mourning prior to Lag Baomer, and the days after, as we approach the holy Yom Tov of Shavuous.
The word "midda" has a gematria of 49. This can be understood both relating to us improving on ourselves and our midos as we approach Shavuous or us raising ourselves level by level (midda) until we reach Shavuous.
the words "lev tov" also have a gematria of 49. In fact, as I said above, sefira is split in two. "lev" refers to the first 32 days. The "heartfelt" days of mourning. "tov" refers to the last 17 days. The "good" days leading up to Shavuous and matan torah.
Lastly, what is the origin of the expression "oy vey"? I recently heard that it comes from the expression that's brought down in the gemara, "vay" (spelled vuv, yud) which is a cry.
As stated above, the gematria of lev/heart is 32. When a heart is sad and broken, it's split in half. "vay", the cry of the heart, has a gematria of 16, half of "lev".

Friday, May 12, 2006

Mama Mia

Lag Baomer is so close that I can almost taste it. With it comes the end of our sefira mourning period. Shaving and music are two things that I am very much looking forward to at this point. I know some people listen to music during sefira, but I am quite sure most do not listen to live music or go to shows.
Now is the time to plan for post Lag Baomer activities. Here's one recommendation:

I had been hearing from friends how great the show Mama Mia was and decided to go see it for myself. I went with my wife shortly before pesach. I must say, I had an amazing time. There's something about Broadway in general that just sets the mood.
I have been to many shows and each one has its own flavor. Its own draw. Its own magic, that makes it special. I can't say that Mama Mia was THE best show that I have ever seen, but it was definitely unique and extremely enjoyable. It makes it that much more enjoyable if you are familiar with ABBA's music. I'm sure almost everybody is familiar with their music, to greater or lesser degrees, even though you may not realize that the music in question is ABBA.
The concept is amazingly brilliant. Most shows are written and then the music is composed to fit into the story. Here, it's the reverse. They took the music and created a story around it. Yes, there were some weak spots, but considering the task, it was quite good and extremely entertaining and most of all, FUN. It was probably the most fun that I ever had at a Broadway show. The electricity as the show ends is amazing and it's true what they say, at the end, just about everyone is dancing in the aisles.
Get tickets now. See the show. You won't regret it. When you get there..... tell them AFI sent you.

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Last Night


Last night, I fell out of my bed
I fell out of my bed, and bumped my head
Thank G-d I'm not dead

Sunday, May 07, 2006

A Fate Worse Than Death


Everyone by now I'm sure knows the results of the Zacarias Moussaoui trial. I was sure that I would have found a bunch of blogs on the subject, but I was shocked not to see even one. Over shabbos I heard people saying he should have gotten the death penalty. He got away with it. If he doesn't get the death penalty who would? etc.

Quite frankly, after hearing the details of his sentence, better that they don't kill him. He will suffer much more living in a tiny cell 23 hours a day. Never again seeing the light of day. Never interacting with another human being other than the guards. If it was me, chas v'shalom, shoot me first.

No death penalty, but a life sentence of a fate even worse.

Wednesday, May 03, 2006

Yom Ha'atzmaut - Iyar 5


Yes, that's what today is. The question is, what does it mean.

As an idealistic and zionistic frum Jew, I must say that I grew up with a huge sense of meaning for Yom Ha'atzmaut. Unfortunately, in many, if not most circles, the day is defined by the davening questions. What does your shul do? We say whole hallel with a bracha, we say half hallel without a bracha, we said tachanun (no way!!!), neturei karta not only say tachanun but kinus and slichos. etc. etc. It's amazing how certain groups of Jews that will find ANY excuse not to say tachanun say it davka today. lol. Bottom line.... it's a major source of davening controversy.

Well, ready or not.... here's my opinion:

We are taught in the gemara that there is legitimacy to saying hallel or shevach v'hodaa on a day "shenaasu bahem nisim l'yisrael" and on a day when miracles occurred for our people/ancestors, etc. It's part of our overall being, who we are, to be makirei tov. (Please click here and/or here to see previous posts of mine on the subject)

With the exception of the Satmar Rebbe ZTL who says it was a "maase satan", I think everyone else agrees that what happened in 1948 cannot be categorized as anything else but a miracle. Whether you support the State of Israel or not, that you have to admit. Based on that, it would seem that hallel on this day makes sense. However, being that the day was not established by the Anshei Knesses Hagedola, we should probably only say half hallel (similar to rosh chodesh) and especially being that safek brachos l'kula, we probably shouldn't make a bracha.
All that said and done, what are you saying? by saying half hallel without a bracha? A few chapters of tehillim. That shouldn't kill anybody, but yet......

The argument most of the opposition has, is that the state of Israel is not a frum state and in fact it's run by mechalelai shabbos, etc. I won't deny that. However I will point out that the Rambam in Hilchos Chanukah explains that one of the reasons that we celebrate Chanukah is because that victory was "machzir shilton l'yisrael yeser mimaasayim shana", that due to the victory of Chanukah we regained controlling power of Eretz Yisrael for over two hundred years. Anyone who knows their Jewish History is aware, that those were far from the "Golden Ages" as far as Jewish leadership is concerned. Between Yannai and Herod, they did more to kill the chachamim than preserve, let alone, grow Torah. Now granted, Ben Gurion, through Sharon and Olmert are no tzadikkim, and yes, they may have cut funding to the yeshivos, but I don't think you can compare ANY of them to the kings of the post-Chashmonaic era. Yet, the Rambam says that the fact Eretz Yisrael was under Jewish rule, even under the above mentioned reshaim, that it warranted day(s) of hallel and shevach.
I have seen the arguments of the Satmar Rebbe, who went so far as to say that the Holocaust was caused by the efforts to establish the State of Israel even before it happened. Thankfully, I have also learned the arguments against him as well, which in my opinion are quite solid.

These last few years my opinions have deviated slightly. One of my biggest issues came when I discovered that there is some flexibility with the date. If Iyar 5 comes out on Shabbos it become a nidche to Sunday. If it comes out on Friday it also pushed off to avoid possible chillul shabbos because of the celebration of the day. I think that's very nice, BUT if we are saying to say hallel because on THAT established day nissim occurred to/for the Jews. How can that day change? It makes no sense. There is no problem saying hallel on shabbos, why change that?
Also, I was discussing the day with a friend this morning, and my friend was quick to point out that events of the last year and the way the government has treated the pioneers and settlers of Gush Katif and the frum Jews in general has left a bad taste in everybody's mouth. There is no question that's the case. I can't disagree.
The way I look at the day however, we are celebrating the past and the miracles that hashem did for us, which is not really affected by today's rulers. I think even the neturei karta will admit (ok, they won't admit it, but they know it's true) that their lives are easier now living in Israel under Israeli control than if the land was under Arab rule.
Whether it's the aschalta d'geula or not, I choose not to get into that, but there is no question in my mind that having a Jewish, albeit non-religious state, is better than not having a Jewish state at all. We now have full access to all of the mekomos hakedoshim that we barely had access to for hundreds of years and that's just the tip of the iceberg.
Still, here in America, I don't agree with listening to music today if one normally doesn't during sefira, but in Israel, I don't feel as strongly about it, after all they feel the direct impact of the nissim much more than we do.
I hope this will not get me stoned by my neturei karta or Satmar brethren. Luckily they are busy fighting other battles now. Watch them unite to fight Yom Haatzmaut before going back to their own in-fighting. lol. Happy Yom Haatzmaut!!!


The above opinion is just one man's opinion and does not reflect the views of blogworld in general.

Monday, May 01, 2006

If you can't beat 'em. join 'em - My MeMe (with pic)


Accent: Born in New York, but I don’t think I have a New York accent. I can speak hebrew with enough of an accent that I can pass for an Israeli.

Booze: Single Malt Scotch – Glenrothes, Wine – Moscato, otherwise the sweet mixed drinks. My favorite wedding drink is a Fuzzy Navel
(I think I just like the name).

Chore I Hate: It would be much easier to list the chores that I enjoy, that’s why they are called CHORES!!!

Dogs/Cats: As a kid, I had a cat and a dog for a few days (on different occasions).

Essential Electronics: blackberry, computer, blackberry, cell phone and did I mention my blackberry?

Favorite Perfume/Cologne: Don’t wear any. Cologne gives me headaches. I might have a favorite perfume, debating whether or not to post it.

Gold/Silver: $658.00/$14.01 per oz. (as of this morning)

Hometown: I reside in New York, but Jerusalem, Israel is my home.

Insomnia: for about five seconds TOPS.

Job Title: I’m a Somebody - when I got married, I was told that I finally became a somebody. Now when my wife says, “Will Somebody please take out the garbage, I know she means me.”

Kids: The pride and joy of my life. The essence of and reason for my being

Living Arrangements: I no longer live with my parents.

Most Admired Trait: Probably, my giving nature.

Number of sexual partners: define sexual partners… JUST KIDDING… SHEESH. With a name like Frum Idealist, what do you think???

Overnight Hospital Stays: I stayed with my daughter who was in the NICU after she was born. As a kid I also had tonsils out and a hernia operation. Warn your kids that it’s a dumb idea to try lifting the piano as a toddler.

Phobia: I am phobiaphobic. I’m afraid to admit what my phobias are. OK, fine, heights, but I’m working on it. Are you happy now????

Quote: “guess what?”
“Never do today what you can push off altogether.” - Ziggy

Religion: Jewish (FFB), I think. (did my blog name give it away?)

Siblings: those are brother(s) and sister(s), right?

Time I usually wake up: 6:00 AM EST. (plus 1+ hits of the snooze button)

Unusual Talent: Making people smile.

Vegetable I refuse to eat: Can I pick two? Asparagus and Brussel Sprouts

Worst Habit: Overanalyzing and nit-picking.

X-Rays: I looooove MRIs. I’ve had a few. Put me in a dark tube, what do I do? Close my eyes and go to sleep (remember my answer for Insomnia?)

Yummy Foods I make: Cereal, Eggs, Tuna, do reservations count?
Then of course, there is my internationally acclaimed brisket.

Zodiac Sign: Cancer

I tag my most faithful reader and commenter, Frumgirl . What??? She’s already done it? And tagged me???
Hmmmmmmm, is there ANYBODY left to tag that hasn’t already done this?
Prag... how about it?